This video is part of the series of How To Recover From Bulimia and Binge Eating Disorder. Coming with the opposite action basically means that you treat yourself the opposite of what the eating disorder is telling you to do and how it is making you feel. After relapse, the most common consequence is shame and self-loathing, as well as disgust with your body. Negative self-talk is very prominent here. The opposite action or energy of this is self-compassion - treating yourself kindly and specifically engaging in self-care for your body, despite how you feel in the moment. Over time, this dissolves the behaviour because eating disorders thrive where there is low self-esteem, disgust and disconnection from one's body and shame.
This video looks at what it means to 'live in the gray' (see part 4 video) by identifying patterns of thinking that are rigid and extreme and how you can temper these to softer language and responses so that your brain can stop labelling things in an all or nothing way. Some examples of this are discussed, along with the necessity of middle-ground/grey thinking when it comes to eating disorder progress and relapse. How to label foods differently is not explicitly discussed, but a tip for those with food groups as 'good' or 'bad' in your minds - rather try see these as neutral and focus instead on how these food groups make your body feel. For example, are they acid-forming? Do they make you feel tired and foggy? Do they leave you unsatisfied? This shifts the focus from eating disorder thinking to self-care when it comes to food.
In this video, part 4 of the series on How to Recover from Bulimia and Binge Eating Disorder, emotions are seen to be the primary catalyst for eating disorders, in the form of projection. When emotions are not safe to feel or express, they must be dealt with in dysfunctional ways to hide or suppress them. This is where eating disorder behaviours thrive. Eating disorders also thrive on black and white thinking that is punitive, extreme and rigid. This is why learning to 'live in the grey' is essential - working towards reducing the extremes and polarity in your language and in how you engage with yourself and others.
In this video, the role of how one's early childhood emotions were received is discussed. When young, we absorb directly from those around us and where there were caregivers, teachers, relatives etc. who did not respond positively to your emotions and the way you expressed these emotions, you will have learnt that emotions and emotional expression is wrong, bad, or unsafe. This is instead of learning that emotions are temporary messengers and are neither bad nor good, and that expressing them can be healthy and safe for those around you. Emotional regulation plays a massive role in the development of eating disorders - often in the form of suppressing emotions because they are viewed negatively by others.
This video looks at how rehab programmes for Bulimia and Binge Eating disorder often focus on stopping or preventing the behaviour, without looking at the larger context of where the eating disorder developed. Eating disorders are always an environmental issue. In my journey, I discovered that shame is at the core of all eating disorders and the antidote to shame is self-compassion. This was key in my recovery and I suggest this will be key to yours. The compassion was a major tool when I had already engaged in the behaviour - I found healing from giving myself compassion AFTER and not before the behaviour.
This video looks at how rehab programmes for Bulimia and Binge Eating disorder often focus on stopping or preventing the behaviour, without looking at the larger context of where the eating disorder developed. Eating disorders are always an environmental issue. In my journey, I discovered that shame is at the core of all eating disorders and the antidote to shame is self-compassion. This was key in my recovery and I suggest this will be key to yours. The compassion was a major tool when I had already engaged in the behaviour - I found healing from giving myself compassion AFTER and not before the behaviour.
This video looks at why women and people of color are often overlooked in autism diagnoses. Historical criteria were based on studies of white males, missing the unique presentations in women and diverse ethnic groups. Women often mask their symptoms to fit societal norms, and cultural differences affect how autism manifests, leading to misdiagnoses. We need more inclusive criteria for accurate diagnoses for everyone.
This video takes a look at the differences in Autistic interoceptive awareness - the internal awareness of physiological changes/needs, emotional sensations and the existential awareness of self.
In this video, I share my experiences as a neurodivergent counsellor and life coach managing chronic illness. I discuss the challenges of maintaining consistency and energy, exploring concepts like Spoon Theory. I also delve into the impact of internalized ableism and how it affects self-perception and mental health. With personal stories, I highlight the frustrations of living with an invisible, dynamic disability, offering support and insights for others facing similar challenges. Join me as I navigate this journey and advocate for greater understanding and acceptance.
There is a lot of confusion around the appropriate terms for neurodivergent and neurodiversity. In this video, I explain the difference and how one person can be neurodivergent but never neurodiverse. Neurodiversity refers to a group of people in which there are multiple neurotypes. I'm a group with only neurodivergent people, there is no neurodiversity. This group is not neurodiverse! Diversity means a mixture in a group while divergent refers to an individual who differs from the majority neurotype. It's important to gwt the language right in order to be truly neuroaffirming.
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